December 15th, 2009
1 day post transfer
So. transfer was yesterday morning. After hearing that all had fertilized, I was feeling pretttty pretttty good and not worried that we might get to the hospital only to hear bad news…Turns out, we had “ok” embryos (this is strictly my non-medical-professional opinion. Based on the ratings, of course). Anyway. We transferred two 4BB embryos. No A’s in sight. It’s like a bad report card in high school. My doctor exhibits little emotion about anything, so I couldn’t read him, but the nurses were quite positive about it all. (Here I will spare you the details of the transfer…if you’ve ever done this, you know them…though I will say I was OVER-cleaned/swabbed down there. Five times! I think he was bored waiting for the embryos to get into their little straw–he kept CLEANING me. I kid you not. I finally joked that I wouldn’t have to shower for a month. Oh. And my bladder hurt. Of course. But doesn’t everyone’s on that table?) Anyway. I am not going to freak out about 4BBs–I am going to be POSITIVE. I am feeling positive. I believe the twins were BBs, and even though they didnt make it, I don’t think their grades were the reason why. We froze two more yesterday and one more was being watched today. The freezer-bound were not superstars, I think a BC and a CD…but for some reason, dr and embryologist still thought they ought to be frozen.
All in all, I am confident in my actions this cycle. I ate good foods. I eliminated “bad” ones. I took supplements. I drank fresh wheatgrass. I listened to fertility meditation cds. I cut back on exercise. I did acupuncture regularly (added in an appt Sunday afternoon pre-transfer, and then Monday afternoon post-transfer). I even went to a hotel (!!) yesterday after the transfer, to do my bedrest (thank you, accrued hotel points!) I have a hard time resting at the house when a two year old is interested in my every move, jumping on me, playing with me, being picked up or chased around…and it usually causes some marital woes, as T and I argue over what is “too much.” So instead, I checked into the hotel, and remained fairly vertical for 24 hours. There’s not much more to do at this point, except wait. And if this cycle doesnt work, I know now that I did close to everything I possibly could to help it along. So if it doesnt work, it wasn’t for lack of effort or trying. I know in the past I have gotten so sad and angry, saying WHY didn’t it work…I did everything RIGHT?? But now, I hope to see it as, It didn’t work, but I did everything right. Of course, it would be wonderful to not get to that spot. And my new outlook doesn’t mean it will be any “easier”, but it is a good mindset nonetheless.
I figure I’ll have a good grasp by Friday or Saturday if it worked…as previously noted, my period cramps are quite distinguishable from my pregnant ones. So it won’t be as though I find out right before Christmas–I’ll have a head start on the info. And now…now I wait. I think about my embryos, I pray about this, I continue to think and feel positive, I “hope” about things an awful lot…and I wait.