Comments on: It’s so hard. http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304 not your average infertility blog (I hope) Wed, 06 Jun 2012 11:48:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Wishing4One http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304&cpage=1#comment-375 Wishing4One Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:09:08 +0000 http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304#comment-375 You know I so feel you, so. I can't find your email, send it to me again k. xoxoxoxoxo You know I so feel you, so. I can’t find your email, send it to me again k. xoxoxoxoxo

]]> By: Phoebe http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304&cpage=1#comment-374 Phoebe Sun, 14 Mar 2010 20:20:32 +0000 http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304#comment-374 I'm so sorry for what you have been through. Grieving is so mysterious. I'm one of those people who grieves for an awfully long time. I know what you mean about not trying again for a long while. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone in your struggles. Big hugs. I’m so sorry for what you have been through. Grieving is so mysterious. I’m one of those people who grieves for an awfully long time. I know what you mean about not trying again for a long while. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone in your struggles. Big hugs.

]]> By: Cathy http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304&cpage=1#comment-371 Cathy Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:27:01 +0000 http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304#comment-371 BIG hugs to you! Your post sounds so much like the posts of despair I wrote almost a year ago when my IVF failed. It's so fucking hard to go through so much and then NOT.GET.PREGNANT. How can that be when others have it happen so easily? I totally get what you mean about "not remembering happiness" b/c you've been focused on IF for SO long. And the sense of wonder that so many people are just living their lives while yours has been put on hold. God, I could have written those paragraphs. I wish I could fix it all, but I can't. All I can offer is a glimpse of the other side. One year out from not being pregnant, I'm still not pg. I took several months "off" (if "just" charting and TI counts as "off"), and it was such a relief to get off the crazy roller coaster of IF. I started working out (which I was afraid to do during treatments), started digging myself out of depression, etc. 8 months later, I'm about to have surgery and am 3 months out from a FET, and it's just now feeling like a possibility. Just now feeling like I have the emotional reserves rebuilt to try again. Anyway, just wanted to give you some light at the end of the tunnel that someday you'll start to feel normal again. Hang in there. I'm not writing you off until the IVF nurse sings. Cramps have been my 1st symptom of PG all 3 times. BIG hugs to you! Your post sounds so much like the posts of despair I wrote almost a year ago when my IVF failed. It’s so fucking hard to go through so much and then NOT.GET.PREGNANT. How can that be when others have it happen so easily?

I totally get what you mean about “not remembering happiness” b/c you’ve been focused on IF for SO long. And the sense of wonder that so many people are just living their lives while yours has been put on hold. God, I could have written those paragraphs.

I wish I could fix it all, but I can’t. All I can offer is a glimpse of the other side. One year out from not being pregnant, I’m still not pg. I took several months “off” (if “just” charting and TI counts as “off”), and it was such a relief to get off the crazy roller coaster of IF. I started working out (which I was afraid to do during treatments), started digging myself out of depression, etc. 8 months later, I’m about to have surgery and am 3 months out from a FET, and it’s just now feeling like a possibility. Just now feeling like I have the emotional reserves rebuilt to try again.

Anyway, just wanted to give you some light at the end of the tunnel that someday you’ll start to feel normal again. Hang in there. I’m not writing you off until the IVF nurse sings. Cramps have been my 1st symptom of PG all 3 times.

]]> By: Sarah http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304&cpage=1#comment-370 Sarah Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:46:25 +0000 http://i-v-effed.com/?p=304#comment-370 Hi from LFCA... I just want to say i know the feelings of frustration and nobody can walk in your shoes. But I do hope you will keep some positiveness I felt horrible and crampy for the first 2 weeks after our 3dt... I then had spotting for 10 days. But here I am 6w5d and I have my first US on friday and if I don't stay positive the worries take over and that is just not fun! I will hope for a positive beta for you and your 3 embies! Hi from LFCA… I just want to say i know the feelings of frustration and nobody can walk in your shoes. But I do hope you will keep some positiveness I felt horrible and crampy for the first 2 weeks after our 3dt… I then had spotting for 10 days. But here I am 6w5d and I have my first US on friday and if I don’t stay positive the worries take over and that is just not fun! I will hope for a positive beta for you and your 3 embies!

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